Disregard fears of disapproval and focus on directness and persistence, as well as structuring a lifestyle around your own personal vitality. Best intentions aside, you cannot empower others if you do not first empower yourself, and you cannot empower yourself if you continue to degenerate in assumed responsibility to those taking advantage of you.
Overextending yourself to those who don’t match you in your will and awareness is akin to lying down in a pool of piranha. Depending on who you devote effort and attention toward, will decide the burdens you take as your own, a rope you tie to yourself. You have to ration your empathy constructively.